我们都拥有它们 – 那些上班的人真正感到不快。每家公司都至少有一家公司,无论您走到哪里,都能得到保证。由于我们倾向于花更多的时间与同事而不是朋友和家人,工作场所的压力相当大,没有处理不同人群的复杂压力。
鉴于我们无法改变它们存在的事实,我们能做的最好的事情就是学习如何最好地与它们合作并减少它们对我们的影响。
不要惊慌!
了解困难的同事是生活的一部分,不幸的是你的企业环境的一部分。大步前进,不要指望它有任何不同。接受是健康和平静的。我想,“嘿,这些胡思乱想的人只会让我看起来更好!”
不要太参与
你不必在办公室与每个人成为朋友。一定要礼貌,彬彬有礼,平易近人,当然。但不是每个人都会成为你的BFF。与相关同事保持礼貌距离,以避免卷入他们的消极情绪。
培养理解力
慈悲是幸福生活的基石。没有接近,想想自己,为什么这个人总是如此飘忽不定/愤怒/粗鲁/填补空白?也许他们正在经历一些你一无所知的个人问题。如果你与他们密切合作并想要解决它,请尝试向你观察的人反映,例如,“我注意到你今天有点紧张。出了什么问题?”根据答案,或许你会消除一些紧张局势。请记住,困难的人往往是不快乐的人。
设置边界
如果您的角色要求您与此人密切合作,请保持关系专业。边界设置意味着专注于有问题的工作或项目,而不涉及任何不必要的戏剧。如果谈话转向谈话,抱怨或反抗,礼貌和坚定,“只要通过这个就好了 – 让我们保持专注”就足够了。取悦,帮助改善或改变其他人不是你的工作。
学点东西
当我们没有情绪参与某种情况时,我们可以采取观察者的客观立场。使用与有问题的同事一起工作的艰巨任务作为学习经历。有问题的同事教给我们一些东西 – 耐心,宽恕,甚至宽容。利用这种经验来获得优势并从中获得一些东西。
在一天结束时,你无法改变这个人。你能做的就是调整你的态度。
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Getty Images – We all have them – those coworkers who really make us unhappy. Every company has at least one, guaranteed no matter where you go. With the tendency to spend more time with colleagues than friends and family, workplace stress can be quite significant, with complex pressures from different groups. Given that we cannot change the fact that they exist, the best thing we can do is learn how to work with them best and minimize their impact on us. Dont panic! Understanding difficult colleagues is part of life, unfortunately, part of your corporate environment. Move forward and dont expect it to be any different. Acceptance is healthy and calm. I think, “Hey, these crazy people just make me look better!” Dont get too involved. You dont have to be friends with everyone in the office. Be polite, courteous, and approachable, of course. But not everyone will be your BFF. Keep a polite distance from relevant colleagues to avoid getting involved in their negative emotions. Cultivate understanding. Compassion is the cornerstone of a happy life. Without getting too close, think about why this person is always so erratic/angry/rude/filling in the blank? Maybe they are going through some personal problems that you are unaware of. If you work closely with them and want to solve it, try reflecting back to the person you observe, for example, “I noticed you were a little nervous today. Whats wrong?” Based on the answer, maybe you can eliminate some tense situations. Please remember that difficult people are often unhappy people. Set boundaries. If your role requires you to work closely with this person, keep the relationship professional. Setting boundaries means focusing on the work or project at hand with problems and not involving any unnecessary drama. If the conversation turns to talk, complaints, or resistance, polite and firm, “Just get through this – lets stay focused” is enough. Pleasing, helping to improve, or change others is not your job. Learn something. When we are not emotionally involved in a situation, we can take an objective observers position. Use the difficult task of working with problematic colleagues as a learning experience. Problematic colleagues teach us something – patience, forgiveness, and even tolerance. Use this experience to gain an advantage and get something out of it. At the end of the day, you